Putting yourself first doesn’t mean that you are selfish – it simply means that you choose to include yourself into the situation. It is a form of self-love to be able to be a part of every equation in your life! You can care about other people, you can share energy and be gracious, but you are going to make sure that your needs are respected, and that you get something out of the interaction. Maybe you feel joy when you are helping others – this is a good reason to continue the action. Maybe you sacrifice yourself for others – this is not a good reason to continue, even if your Lower Self enjoys being the martyr!